Thursday, July 9, 2009

A Preciuos Goodbye

Walking With You was created to help support those who have lost a child. Together we share our stories, helpful information, scriptures, encouraging words, prayer requests, and more. Thank you to those of you who have joined us for the past few weeks...for courageously sharing your stories. If you haven't joined us yet, and would like to, you are more than welcome. This week, we are sharing about saying good-bye and experiencing the memorial service or funeral if applicable. You may visit previous posts by clicking on the Walking With You button above.

This 4th week, we are sharing about saying goodbye and experiencing the memorial service or funeral if applicable.

I never got to say goodbye really. I was only about 8 weeks along, so their was no funeral. I wish I would have though of something to do in remembrance of my child. I do plan on getting a tattoo sometime.


  1. I am so sorry, Ivy. My heart is hurting for all of the mommies on this walk tonight. Your words tug at my heart. Thank you for joining us. It is so important to us as mothers that our children would be remembered. Praying the Lord will comfort you and minister to you...

  2. Ivy, I also had a couple of miscarriages.. My first one people just told me to get over (!). After the second one, I figured out somethings for ME. I "named" both my babies, I wrote letters to them and took them to a "memorial to the unborn" that is at a local cemetery.

    I've never wanted a tattoo before but am considering one these days as well. Hugs to you.

  3. I'm sorry that you were never able to have a funeral for your baby. Have you ever done a memorial service for your baby? Also, Ivy I want to let you know that at the National Memorial for the Unborn you can get brick pavers inscribed and put in the earth there for your baby if they were lost by miscarriage or stillbirth. A tattoo is a neat way to memorialize. As you know, I got one for Carleigh. :)

  4. I had four miscarriages before Chaya's stillbirth. All between four and 12 weeks. I never got to say goodbye to them, either. In some ways, NOT saying goodbye is more painful that having TO say goodbye.

    I have a memorial spot on my piano for my Chaya that includes a candle. I also decided to have a candle for each of my Little Ones I never got to meet or say goodbye to. I light their candle on the anniversary of the day they each left me.

    I'm in the process of designing a tattoo for each of them as well. I think it's a beautiful way to memorialize a child never met, but loved immensely.