This book reading is for In Faithfulness, He Afflicted Me by Lynnette Kraft.
Have you ever been at a loss for words when trying to comfort another? If you've endured a loss, in what ways have people shown you they cared? How have you shown others you care?
I am always at a loss for words when I am talking to someone in pain. I just dont know what to say. I want to help them, but I am also afraid of saying something wrong or offending them. I usually just tell them I am sorry and that I will pray for them.
When I lost my first baby, people tried to help me. Most of the time it only made me feel worse. People would say things like "It was for the better." or "Something was apparently wrong with it." I always though, "How can it be for the better." or " I would still have loved he/she, even if something was wrong." Its a tough road to walk. Sometimes I think that just saying you are there for them ( and following through) is all that needs to be said.
What fears do you have that you feel you should give to God?
I am always fearful that I will lose another baby. I know that if that is to happen that God wanted that baby with him and has a purpose for it.
A lot of times people try to say something to make you feel better but fail miserably. I definitely think following through is big. You can tell someone you'll be there for them or do something for them and then not do it. It makes them lose faith in you as a friend.
ReplyDeletePeople can fail miserably at trying to help. I always find the ones who have been through a loss so get your pain. My mom and I battled when I had the twins. blake was fine but my daughter was gone. It seemed to escape everyone elses mind.
ReplyDeleteMy fears were the same
I know that those words of "comfort" that were more negative will stay with you forever because of the way they affected you. Please know those were not words of God.
ReplyDeleteI know the fear of losing another child will weigh on you heavily, it is a hard thing to hand over and be released from.